We have spoken about the fact that her weight fluctuates, and how that directly corresponds to how much sex we have. While I continue to love her as much as I always have, I do lose sexual interest when she is bigger. Good marriages are built on affection, loyalty, trust, honesty and mutual respect, as well as physical and emotional intimacy but, if you believe in long-term commitment, you also have to accept the inevitability of physical change. Knowing, as she does, that your desire for her is so conditionally linked to her weight makes losing it a much more risky prospect. Not all fat people are unhappy but any woman who has been told by her husband that there is a proportionate, but inverse, relationship between his ability to have sex with her and her size, is almost certainly miserable. She already knows that.
Lily James. Age: 27. Pleasant meeting for an intelligent man. I do everything with feeling and tenderness, the main thing in sex is to give you pleasure! P. S. All your wishes will be considered individually.
My wife has become too fat for me
Dear Mariella | Marriage | The Guardian
The dilemma I've been with my husband for over 14 years, married for four, and we haven't had sex for more than two years. It's always been fairly intermittent. He says he wants to have sex, too, and that it matters to him, but he doesn't act on it. Three years ago I told him how unhappy I was and that if things weren't going to change I couldn't stay with him.
Erika. Age: 31. I will be glad to spend time with you. Well, why not? I love sex, I have a rich experience, a beautiful figure, and I also have a very beautiful ass!
Stating the indisputably obvious might make you feel better, but take it from me, your wife already knows she is fat and she hates herself for it. Every morning when she wakes up she feels the rolls of fat around her midriff and berates herself. As she showers and washes between the folds of her flesh she loathes herself a little more.
I am not physically attracted to my wife. Her physical appearance has always been an issue and it only gets worse. She has put on a considerable amount of weight.